Friend Zone Explained Perfectly (not written by me)
For men, a relationship is the natural progression of a close friendship with a member of the opposite sex. You like her a lot, and you know from being friends with her that she has a really great personality. Why wouldn’t you upgrade a friendship into a relationship?
For women, friendships and romance are two totally different things. They decide evaluate whether a guy is boyfriend material or not. If he is, they pursue a romantic relationship. If he isn’t quite up to snuff, but still a decent enough guy, they’ll pursue a friendship.
Problems arise when both genders assume that the other gender thinks like they do. The friendzone arises out of both genders assuming something about the function of the other. Guys assume that, when they upgrade from “pursuing friendship” to “pursuing romantic relationship”, that the girls are aware of what they’re doing. Thus, when they’re rejected, they assume the girl was maliciously abusing of the pre-romantic relationship. Meanwhile, the woman has assumed that the man is also simply pursing a friendship, and when it’s revealed that the attention was romantic, they feel betrayed and used, like the other party only cared about sex.
This is why friendzoned men consider friendzoning women manipulative, and why femanons claim that any man who is nice to a girl in the hopes of pursuing a relationship is only after sex and doesn’t really care about personality or anything else important. It’s just a fundamental miscommunication
